I don’t understand how some people can be so insensitive during these rough times.
I understand we all mourn differently.
And I know that most of my family and friends have been super supportive and sensitive.
But there are others that say things that just flabbergast me, and make me want to cry and bury myself in a hole. Some are family, and some are family “friends.”
An example being, a friend of my grandmothers came into the hospice early one morning while mom and I were waking up. My mom left to go get coffee, and this “friend” started going off about how disappointed she was of me, and how much of a disappointment I was to my grandmother, and that she doesn’t want me to end up like my mother. It was simply because she found out that I smoked cigarettes.
Who are you to judge me, and my family, while I am grieving over my dying grandmother? Later, she told my mother that she had to “put me in my place.”
I know I should let it roll it off my shoulder, but words like these are extremely hurtful, and undeserved. She claims she is a christian, but God’s teaching tells us that only He can judge us, and that we should be supportive of our brothers and sisters, especially in times like these.
I can’t help but cry, not only because my grandmother is gone, but people have to judge me and say that I’m a huge disappointment I know my grandma loved me endlessly, and no matter what I did she would forgive me and support me.
Like she always said to me, “I love you once, I love you twice, I love you more than beans and rice” 🙂